“There are times in all relationships when things are not smooth, issues arise that need to be addressed and intimacy in the relationship becomes flat and stale. Often this is because people have conflicting expectations, are distracted with other issues, or have difficulty expressing what is on their minds in ways that other people can really hear and understand. Intimacy is often the first thing to be pushed aside when there is conflict and sometimes the partners in the relationship just don’t know what to do to make the relationship more intimate again.

The goal in an intimate relationship is to feel connected in a deep spiritual way with your partner. The intimacy needs to be safe, supportive, respectful, non-punitive and peaceful; where you can feel taken care of, wanted, unconditionally accepted and loved just for existing and being alive. You feel part of something incredibly special in such a relationship and aloneness or loneliness never becomes an issue.

You experience forgiving and being forgiven with little revenge or reminding of past offences and you find yourself giving thanks for just being able to share your life with this chosen person.

A healthy intimate relationship has a sense of directedness and you experience being free to be who you are rather than who you think you need to be for the other. People’s feelings and the processes of the relationship come before material achievements and money. This type of relationship encourages your personal growth, supports your individuality and does not result in you or your relationship partner becoming emotionally, physically or intellectually dependent on one another.”

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